Welcome back to another Self Care January post! Today we will discuss the importance of thinking positive.
Growing up I was always positive and optimistic, the word ‘negativity’ did not exist in my vocabulary. I was one of the most optimistic people you would ever meet, I was always the one encouraging other people to be happy. However, there came a time in my life when all of this changed.
When I immigrated to Canada I wasn’t prepared for what I was about to experience for the next few years. I was given a false image of what immigration would be like and my optimism quickly crashed. I began to see a change in my personality, I started to become more reserved, quiet, and pessimistic. These characteristics were the opposite of who I was and I didn’t know how to deal with the change. It also didn’t help that I was a teenager going through all kinds of emotional and physical changes.
Middle school was not easy because I was still adjusting to the Canadian life, so I was going through lots of changes. When the time came to move on to high school, I naively thought my troubles were over. Nope. In fact, it got worse! Grade nine was amazing, but from grade ten onwards school became unbearable because I went through bullying. If I started being negative when I was in middle school, then this feeling intensified even more in high school. I felt lost, I didn’t understand why I couldn’t be happy and feel like I did before. Slowly I turned into a pessimist, and that lasted for a few years.
In 2010, I met my best friend who transformed my life and helped me go back to my old self, almost. I became so reserved in high school and that resulted in me having social anxiety. When my friend came along she really helped to come out of my shell and be the person who I always used to be. The change was positive, but then a new set of challenges came along and I was reverting back to that negative mindset. It became excessive, to the point where my friend had to tell me to snap out of it because it was too much handle. Last year, lots of things happened and the negativity led to horrible stress. I developed health problems and became depressed. I didn’t know how to handle these intense feelings, and then something happened in August that forced me to realize my negativity would not lead me to a happy life. I realized how important it was to think positive so you can attract positive vibes in your life. No one wants to be around someone who is negative all the time, and trust me, you will feel fed up with yourself one day too. When you are positive your relationships with others will improve, and be better.
As soon as I started to become more positive again, I noticed my life became calmer and I felt more at peace. I started writing in a gratitude journal, I began meditation and began writing solutions to my negative thoughts. For example, I won’t ever find a job in my field. Instead, I would write, “yes you will, but you have to work super hard before results come along.” When you complain about everything that’s wrong in your life, you won’t live a good life. Obviously, thinking positive 24/7 is hard and not always possible but it is essential to try and be positive. Acknowledge how you feel and accepted, but try not to be stuck in this situation for too long. You deserve to believe in yourself and love yourself. You deserve happiness, and you deserve to believe everything you want in life can happen to you one day.
I challenge you to write one positive thought on a paper each day and put in a mason jar, that way you have a visual representation of your positive thoughts. I know it’s hard, but if you are reading this… YOU CAN DO IT!
Thank you for reading and tomorrow I will post my last Self CareJanuaryr post!
See you soon!