What I Learned From My Friendship Break-Up

Any form of a breakup can be hard to deal with, but I think people underestimate friendship breakups. They are just as hard, as romantic ones. In the back of your mind, you know some romantic relationships may not workout, so you can go and find a more compatible partner. However, with friendship breakups, we think they are forever.

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This year I went through two friendship breakups with my best friends, one I’ve known for four years and the other for seven years. It is especially hard when you are on the receiving end of the breakup. It comes as a shock, and the grieving process is similar to the five stages of grief.

1. Denial and isolation

2. Anger

3. Bargaining

4. Depression

5. Acceptance

It is completely normal to go through these stages, you are person with emotions so obviously you will have a hard time coming to terms with a special frienship coming to an end. But there has to come a time when the grieving has to end, accept what has happened and move on.

In all honesty, my grieving process is close to the acceptance stage but there are still moments when I’m hit with sudden waves of sadness. That’s to be expected, I mean this happened to me just three months ago. I think this friendship breakup helped me view frienships a little bit differently, and not in a negative way but in a smart way. To see what I’m talking about, lets take a look at what I learned from my frienship breakup.

  1. Allow yourself to feel.

There will be people who will tell you to get over it, or why are you thinking about it so much? Or “you dodged a bullet, forget them”. It’s easy for people who aren’t in your shoes to make comments about your situation as if they know everything. It’s their way of trying to help, but in a way they are saying “enough with the pity party”. People need to understand that validating someone’s feelings and saying “it’s ok to feel like this, it’ll get better” is much better than the above examples. So allow yourself to feel every emotion, if you surpress it, it will come back later. You want to have an authentic experience with this and go through all the stages, until one day you move on and never look back.

2. Sharing Less.

It’s important to remember that friends are not your family, but when we learn to trust someone we feel comfortable to share more about ourselves. Now, I’m not saying you can’t share, but be choosy of what you choose to share. Some people may not understand and distance themselves if you are going through hardships. In my opinion, those are not true friends. Real friends are meant to be there through thick and thin, I know that I will always be there for friends going through a tough time. Have best friends with whom you can be yourself, but do not overshare.

3. Forgive.

It’s easy to feel anger when someone has misunderstood you or treated you unfairly. Anger does not hurt anyone else but yourself. According to Psychology Today, this is what anger does to your body:

A strong emotion that is accompanied by arousal of the nervous system, anger produces effects throughout the body. It eats away at your cardiovascular system, your gut and hijacks nervous system, often obliterating the capacity for clear thinking. And it may even grow in intensity.

As you can see, it does only damage to your physical and emotional health. As much as it hurts when someone mistreats you, you have to forgive because you are a kind person.

4. Apologize.

It’s easy in these situations to say that only one person is at fault for a frienship to end, but it takes two to end a friendship. Swallow your pride and apologize for anything you may have done wrong. If you have argued with a friend, do not wait too long to speak with them. Resolve the issues right away, express how they made you feel and where they might be in the wrong. But before you do that apologize for anything you may have done wrong, that will show a level a maturity. If they still want to end the friendship, it is not your job to convince them to stay friends with you. If you owned up for anything you may have done wrong, and they still do not accept your apology, then let it go. Sometimes people may need time to forgive and you may need time too and that’s ok.

5. Things Happen For a Reason.

Believe it or not, sometimes these things happen to teach us a life lesson and push us towards change. I am a big believer that things happen for a reason and this has forced me to make certain changes in my life that were necessary. If this didn’t happen I wouldn’t have gotten the push I needed to make changes in certain aspects in my life. Even though it’s still heartbreaking, something good will come from a friendship breakup. For example, thanks to my friendship ending I got in touch and have my first best friend of 15 years back in my life again. There is always a silver lining.

6. Goodbye is Not Forever (Sometimes).

As I mentioned above, I got in touch with my first best friend of 15 years. We had a falling out years ago and recently got in touch in again. At that time I thought our friendship was done forever, but a few years later we are friends again. Sometimes friends go through a rough patch, but if it’s meant to you will go back to each other. Let people roam, if someone is meant to be in your life they’ll make their way back.

7. Giving Second Chances.

It really is a your decision whether or not to give a friend a second chance, if they treated you badly then do not even bother and move on.

 

Thank you so much for reading this post, I hope whoever reads this finds it helpful. I wrote this from my own perspective and how I’ve been dealing with this situation. Remember it gets better and you deserve people in your life who will respect you!

Wishing you all love and positivity! See you soon.

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Going back to my old format!

Hello everyone,

After debating what to do with this blog and talking to fellow friends who are entrepreneurs, I have decided to go back to my old format.

What does that mean?

I am going back to writing about various topics again i.e. beauty, travel, music, TV, books and so much more. I don’t want to limit myself to only on topic because I love to write about many things. You can think of this blog as a personal/lifestyle blog, but I will continue to post many posts about music.

With that being said, I am glad I am going back to how this blog used to be because it was more fun and enjoyable. I will change the blog title to Daily Talk Blog but I will keep the domain name a bit longer until I figure out how to change it.

I can’t wait to go back to a regular blogging schedule.

See you soon!!! :)))

 

 

Taylor Swift – Look What You Made Me Do

Wow, ok so I realize this post is late but life got a bit crazy and I couldn’t post on a regular basis. Nevertheless, let’s begin.

Taylor Swift knows how to get the public talking and looking forward to her new music. On August 18, 2017, she deleted everything from her social media accounts i.e. Instagram, Twitter and now posts on Facebook after 2015. I am not a Swifty, so I did not care for the hype too much. However, I did think this was a clever marketing strategy to get people talking and anticipate her next move.

On August 24, 2017, she released the lyrics version of her new single “Look At What You Made Me Do”, with a very different vibe from her typical music style. Can you imagine a dark/edgy Taylor? Well, you better start because she is here and according to the lyrics of her new single, the old Taylor is gone.

Even though I am not a Swiftie, I respect Taylor as an artist because she does it well and she knows what she’s doing. I applaud her for evolving and trying out different genres and reinventing herself. Some people are giving her hate for not being the country Taylor we all know, but I love the change. People aren’t meant to stay the same, change is part of life. If you guys don’t like the new Taylor, you can leave and find another musician to admire.

Now back to the music video, I think all of us has seen it by now so I won’t go over it in too much detail. I love the cinematography, the first scene of Taylor emerging from the ground as a zombie symbolizes her return to the music scene. After the Kanye drama, Taylor went on a mini hiatus but little did we know she was coming back stronger than ever. My other favorite scene is when Taylor is with the other versions of herself and battling with them. I am not sure what it means exactly but to me symbolizes letting go of your past selves. Finally, we see Taylor making fun of herself about all of the things she was criticized about in the past.

As for the song, I really like it but the chorus disappointed me. I was expecting it would be a bit more upbeat because there was a build up in the pre-chorus part. To me, the chorus felt kind of flat and repetitive, however, I love the rest of the song. I just wish the chorus was more powerful.

I am sincerely looking forward to the release of her new album, you bet I will be reviewing it.

Thank you so much for reading.

See you soon!

Twice – Knock, Knock

There is no doubt Twice is newest girl group to rise to popularity, in fact, they are often compared to South Korea’s favorite group, SNSD. Now, I am not going to compare them to SNSD, because they have their own unique charm.

Twice was formed by JYP Entertainment from the talent competition show, Sixteen. They debuted on October 20, 2015 with their hit song, “Ohh Ahh”, following this single the girls have released  hit after hit.

Their newest single, “Knock, Knock” was released on Sunday, February 19 and in just three days the music video hit 16 million views. It also topped the Melon, Genie, Bugs and Mnet, within eight hours. I think it’s safe to say they are sweeping up to charts in a heartbeat. The song is presented as a sequel to their previous single, “TT”.

In the music video, the girls are having slumber party  and being silly with their friends. When they see it’s snowing outside, they rush out to have a snowball fight, but quickly realize the door shut behind them, being locked out. They rush to go and knock on the door, hence where the sequel part comes into play. In the previous single, “TT”, two children turn around to a knock at the door.

This song has a catchy and cheerful chorus, with their new eye catching “knock, knock” dance. I already have this on replay, will you?

See you soon!

PS. I am hoping that very soon I will be back to posting on a regular basis, however I am thinking about whether to go back to what this blog used to be. I used to post about various topics, I am still figuring it out so I will let you know what happens as soon as possible.

 

Lindsey Stirling, Brave Enough Tour 2016

Hello everyone,

It’s been a while, my apologies for keeping you waiting but I have a brand new post for you so I hope that makes up for the wait 🙂

For those of you who are new to my blog I am not a professional music critic. Simply love music so much that I want to write my thoughts and opinions about albums, songs, and performances. So that’s exactly what I’m going to be doing today I will talk to you guys about the Lindsey Stirling performance I saw this Tuesday. Lindsey Stirling is one of the most innovative and creative violinist of our time. This may sound like an exaggeration, but go on over to her YouTube channel and you will be blown away by her talent.

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Lindsey Stirling, Brave Enough, album cover.

Before I get into the good stuff, I want to give you guys a brief background information about Lindsey. Lindsey Stirling was born on September 21, 1986 she is an electronic classical performance artist. She combines both genres of music and dances while playing the violin, as you can imagine it takes a lot of stamina to be able to do that but she makes it look so effortless. Lindsey decided in 2010 to appear on America’s Got Talent, but she got voted off further into the show and was told she wouldn’t be able to sell out any shows with this kind of music. She then took her music YouTube, cinematographer David Gray reached out to Lindsey in hopes of collaborating on a YouTube video together. From there her music started to take off and slowly she gain more following. She has released three albums and her first release was her self-titled album Lindsey Stirling. She has performed with many amazing singers such as Celine Dion, and she won a Billboard Award for Top Dance Electronic album. Do I need to say more, she is quite amazing!

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Lindsey Stirling, along side Celine Dion at the 2016 Billboard Awards!

I’m going to give you a breakdown of what the concert was like and what to expect if you are attending her. The concert began with Shawn Hook as the opening act, who is also a fellow Canadian. He has performed with Elton John, so he is someone to look out for in the future. If I can recall correctly, he performed about 4-5 songs, including his famous single, “Sound of Your Heart”. He had great vocals, very clear and not auto-tuned at all and his piano skills were on point. The show began at 8:00pm, Shawn performed until 8:30pm and then we had a half an hour intermission.

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At 9 o’clock, the star of the night appeared on stage, she performed her song “Pheonix” and it was an electrifying introduction. The stage looked incredible, three screens were set up and on top the Brave Enough logo could be seen.

The costumes and stage effects were quite impressive, in front of the main stage there was a net-like looking screen that was brought down. On that screen special effects were projected, such as leaves falling down or the effects of rain. It was definitely a very unique visual experience. Seeing Lindsey perform on stage you can see she definitely has the charisma and the energy to keep the audience engaged. She loves what she does for a living and this is her passion. The skill of dancing and playing the violin at the same time can be a very hard but she manages to pull it off very well. Lindsey Stirling is a very down to earth person who engaged with the audience and had conversations with them. She put together a little skit that supposedly was filmed backstage, it was quite funny and we were all laughing. Lindsey along with her drummer and guitar player, came out onstage with child sized music instruments and played a song or two. That just goes to show even with a child’s toy she can still pull it off.

After the skit Lindsey took the time to talk about one of her crew members, Gavi, who passed away of cancer. She talked about how hard it was for her to deal with this loss and how she’s overcoming it. She performed a tribute song for Gavi with a special video montage she put together of him. After this tribute performance, Lindsey talked about a song that Gavi and her started writing together before he passed away. They couldn’t finish it so she said that she worked very hard and she felt that she had Gavi’s support from up above to finish the song. It was very touching performance. Afterwards, Lindsay changed costumes and played a few more songs before ending the show. When she performed her song, “Arena”, she talked about the adversity she faced when she was told that she will not be able to make it as a musician. Her positive message to anyone in the audience who had any special talents was never to give up and never to let anyone tell them that they cannot do it. Instead she said to use it as a way to get back up there and fight for what you are born to do. It was such a great message and it really hits close to home for me personally, because I have lots of aspirations and dreams for the entertainment industry. After she left the stage everybody were yelling encore, encore, we all wanted to see her back on stage and she came back for one final performance of “Roundtable Rival”.

What am I going take away from this concert experience? I have learned that being persistent to chase your dreams is vital. Never give up, Lindsey didn’t and now she is a star. Make sure you visit her YouTube channel, you are in for a treat!

Thanks for reading and see you soon!

 

Update

Hello everyone,
My apologies for my absence, I am currently on vacation in Vancouver City and I was on a road trip to Oregon and Washinton State.

I have a lot of new content for you guys and travelling stories so stay tuned 🙂
See you soon!

Update + New Blog!

Hello everyone,

It’s been a while since I’ve posted anything on my blog and life has been keeping crazy busy lately! I’ve been sick for two months, May and June, in May I had a horrible fever and in June I had an ear infection and strep throat. Let’s just say, for two months I’ve been on antibiotics and pain killers and it was a lot for my body to handle.

I used to work in a daycare and I got illnesses I’ve never had before as a child, so I wanted to take time to recover and get my energy back. In addition, I also got a new job for the Toronto Symphony Orchestra and the adjustment period has not been easy. There is a lot for me to learn and it’s been super stressful, so I couldn’t focus too much on blogging.

However, this weekend I had the chance to work on something that I was planning since the relaunch of my blog. I decided to create a lifestyle blog, because I wanted to continue to write about lifestyle. So I would like to welcome you to Daily Talk, the name may seem familiar because I named this blog this at one point. For more information, please visit my new blog to find out what I will be writing about.

Thank you for your patience and making time to read this post 🙂

See you soon!