Self Care January! Dealing With Stress.

Hello everyone,

Welcome back to Self Care January, today’s topic will be about stress and how to cope with stress.

We are all going through daily life stressors, and then there are also the bigger stressors in our lives. Stress is not an easy thing to deal with because it affects your judgment and emotional response. In addition, prolonged stress can lead to negative effects on your physical and emotional health. The best way to handle stress is to begin by recognizing the signs and how your body reacts. Being self-aware is so important for our physical and mental health.

When you are self-aware you can apply the necessary coping strategies to deal with the stress before it becomes excessive. Obviously, you can’t fix yourself in one day this requires constant effort. So today I decided to share a list of strategies that can help you cope with stress.

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Let’s begin.

   1. Meditation.

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Meditation is wonderful because it teaches your mind how to focus on the present moment and bring your mind inward. It helps you focus on your breathing, in addition, paying attention to any bodily sensations. Are your shoulders tense? Are you sweating from the stress? Has your breathing increased? When you are aware of these factors, you can meditate to bring down your adrenaline levels and breathe. Meditation is all about being aware of your surroundings, being aware of the noise around you, what you see, what you feel. I am not the greatest at medication, my mind wonders around a lot, but I do my best to teach my mind to focus on the present moment. Meditation is great whenever you feel like you are about to have an anxiety or a panic attack.

2. Writing in a journal.

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Sharing your personal struggles with people all the time is not something they are always open to hearing. I’m sure you might have a few people or one person to turn to, but you want to make sure the sharing is not excessive. I started using a journal to write down my thoughts, anything negative or positive for the sole purpose of venting. Sometimes when we are emotional we may say things we regret, so writing in a journal you can write whatever you want because it’s only for your eyes to read. It has proven to be helpful for me, I can be myself and be authentic.

3. Socialize.

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After my friendship breakup last summer, I became anti-social, I started to prefer spending time alone. This is not a bad thing, but we are human beings and we crave contact. Even the most independent person will start to feel lonely. Going out with friends will distract you from your life worries, and make you have some fun. I went out recently for lunch with my best friends, and it made me feel more relaxed. It made me remember how good it felt to go out and have some fun with friends.

4. Aromatherapy.

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I rely heavily on aromatherapy to relax me, I have the worst anxiety but when I use my diffuser and it fills my room with the relaxing scents, and it makes me feel better. I typically prefer lavender and eucalyptus mint.

5. Adult Colouring Books.

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Adult coloring books are absolutely wonderful, I feel like a kid again when I use them. The reason why I chose to include them on this list as a stress reliever is because they allow you to be fully focused on one task. When I first started using adult coloring books, I was fully focusing on coloring in the details. It took me two or three hours if I am committed to coloring more pages. During that time I didn’t really think about anything else, but the task at hand. I really enjoyed it and in a way, it is similar to meditation. It helps you focus on a task in the moment.

6. Therapy.

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Sometimes applying these coping strategies may not be enough to cure your stress if it’s been going on for a long time. Seeking the help of a therapist is nothing to be ashamed about and it doesn’t mean you are weak for seeking their help. In fact, you are strong enough to realize stress is affecting your well being and you need a professional to help you. There is a negative stigma attached to seeking a therapist, with the idea of you being crazy for going to therapy. This is not the 1900s, in our world today mental health is more prevalent than the past, therefore, making an appointment with a therapist could be helpful.

7. Excercise.

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Many people say that with exercise you get those happy endorphins, and it is true. I remember a time when I went to the gym and I was feeling very overwhelmed with my job. I had no energy prior to going to the gym, nevertheless, I decided to stick to my regular routine. When I started doing my workout, I started to feel energized. I don’t know if it was the groovy music I was listening to, but I felt so hyper and completed a full hour of workout. I was smiling more and I stopped thinking about my job woes. According to Harvard Medical School, exercise has the capacity to exhilarate and relax, to provide stimulation and calm, to counter depression and dissipate stress. I agree with this statement 100% it really helps your physical and mental health.

8. Yoga.

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To add to the workout point, yoga is also great because it allows you to fully stretch your body. Any muscle aches or soreness that you may have will feel more relaxed with yoga, and yoga allows you to focus fully on the present moment.

9. Getting enough sleep.

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Believe or not, but when your body is not fully rested it will affect your cognitive abilities. It will make you feel fatigued, cranky, and easily prone to stress. When we are not getting enough sleep we are also most likely to feel irritated easily or respond strongly to the stressor. Getting up to 7-8 hours of sleep is very important, when you are well rested you will feel better and think adequately about the situation.

10. Nature walks.

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Nature has a healing effect on my mind, body, and soul. In 2016, I was constantly sick and also very stressed out from work. That year I went on a trip to Vancouver for two weeks, on that trip I hiked with my friends and we were constantly around nature. I suddenly felt very at peace and forgot all of my troubles. Being around nature, and seeing its beauty was very calming for me. Now, I prefer to go out for a walk around the neighborhood to the nearest park. I sit with a book, or simply sit on a bench and enjoy my surroundings.

I hope these tips were helpful for any of you who are going through a lot of stress right now. Remember, healing and taking control of your stress does not happen overnight. It requires constant effort and works, but it is worth it.

Thank you for reading and see you soon!

 

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Self Care January! Embracing Change.

Hello everyone,

Welcome back to another Self Care January post and today’s we’ll be discussing how to embrace change. This post will include lots of personal life examples of my struggles to love change.

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Change is a natural part of life that brings you to the next chapter in your life, change can bring you a lot of positivity. However, I’ve always had a negative attitude towards change. As a child, I embraced change well, but I after I immigrated to Canada when I was 13 I began to have a negative attitude towards change.

When my family and I first moved to Toronto, we lived in a bigger apartment which was not necessary for newcomers to Canada. I remember vividly the day my mom came into the room and told me we might have to move to another place to pay for cheaper rent. Looking back on that day, my behavior and reaction were overly dramatic. I began crying and being a brat because I would miss having a view of the CN Tower from my bedroom. I also really liked the size of my bedroom and I didn’t want to move to a smaller apartment. We eventually moved and I began liking the building, it was closer to the bus stop, it was closer to the plaza with all of the shops and closer to the other parks. In the end, it turned out to work out for the better.

This is an example of a time when I had to go through a change that has a happy ending, however, as an immigrant teenager, there were changes that were not positive. When I was told we were immigrating to Canada, I was so excited to move to a foreign country. But I never expected the challenges I had to face, some of the changes I went through gave me a negative outlook on change. As an adult, I realized I hate change so much because in the past change was negative for me. Holding on to comfort became something I cling on for dear life. Change scares me, leaving something that brings me comfort is unsettling.

I noticed recently that I am holding on to change because I am afraid if the next step will be successful or not. Here is a very recent example of this circumstance. I am currently employed at a company I’ve worked for five years, but from the beginning, I didn’t like the job. I work split shift, I start work at 7:30am and there is a lot of moving furniture and cleaning. For those of you wondering, I work as a teacher/assistant supervisor at a before and afterschool program. There have been many moments where I’ve been close to quitting the job, at least a few times per year. The only reason why I still work there is that of my students. They are the most precious, beautiful and kind children! I only stay for them, but the thing is the company has many flaws so staying long term won’t make me any happier. But here I am still working for this company because I fear change and whether or not the next step will be better than my current situation. I am going through a career change to work in my dream field, and I’ve been working hard on this for the past few years. Therefore, the change that awaits me is supposed to be positive, but again my insecurity about change is a barrier in my life.

As soon as I began to realize why I dislike change, that’s when I started to take action and fight those negative thoughts. What I do now is write down why I am scared of the change and then I write the pros and cons of the potential change. If the pros list is longer than the cons, that’s how I know I am making the right decision.

In other circumstances, change will appear negative in the beginning but as time passes you will see why it was good for you. I’ll give a quick example, last summer one of my long-term friendship ended with a friend who was like family to me. It was heartbreaking and I couldn’t make sense of what was happening. It felt like the end of an era and hated going through this change of losing a friend and not having this friend in my life anymore. However, for a few years I was going through something tough and when the friendship ended I got a rude awakening to start my own healing. In the end, this change that seemed so negative turned out to be beneficial for my well being. I still miss the friendship, but you never know how life will unfold and who comes back into your life.

My point with sharing these stories I’ve shared today is that change is not easy, but in the end, it is the best thing for you. Everything happens for reason and how life will lead you down your chosen path.

Fear of the unknown kills more dreams than anything else. The change means growth, change means living a better! I am still a work in progress and I am still working on embracing change, but one day I’ll learn to love it. Look at change as a way of taking you closer to the life you’ve always imagined.

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Thank you so much for reading and I hope you found this article helpful!

See you soon!

 

Self Care January! Dealing With Toxic People.

Hello everyone,

Welcome back to another Self Care January post, I hope you all have enjoyed them all so far.

Today’s topic is toxic people! We have all encountered toxic people at least at one point in our lives. This may be a strong word to use, but I refer to them as emotional vampires. It feels as if they suck out your positive energy and you’re left feeling drained. I have dealt with all kinds of toxic people, coworkers, friends, and family.

Over the years I have learned that prolonged exposure to toxic people can be detrimental to your physical and mental health. It is important to learn how to deal with such individuals in an effective and healthy manner.

Before I begin listing ways of dealing with toxic people, I will proceed to explain key characteristics of a toxic person.

  1. They absolutely refuse to admit they are the problem, however, keep in mind sometimes they do not realize they are the problem. I had a boss who was very toxic, the difference with her was she knew what she was but she refused to change. Which brings me to my next point.
  2.  Toxic people cannot change. Either they refuse to change or they are not aware they need to change. Not all toxic people refuse to change, some may realize they have a problem but it has reached a point where it is too difficult to change. Keep in mind though, if this person genuinely realizes one day they are the issue then I don’t see why they can’t be given second chance. I am all for giving second chances if someone genuinely realizes they were toxic. Of course, I don’t mean anyone who has done something extreme.
  3. They are very good at making you feel guilty. They know exactly what to say to make you feel like you are the problem. It is very important not to give in to what they say about you and believe you are a good person. Of course, be self-aware if you have done anything. Sometimes we could react in a strong manner but in most circumstances, the toxic person is the challenge, not you.
  4. They are emotionally needy. There is a difference between someone going through a tough time and needing a shoulder to cry on and someone who makes you feel like you are responsible for their life. As people, we are only responsible for ourselves, we are not obligated to babysit anyone.
  5. They are manipulative. They are very good at saying the right thing to make you do what they want.
  6. They are judgemental and are critical of everything.
  7. They do not apologize.

These are a few of the characteristics toxic people possess, now we will talk about how to deal with them.

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1.Do not react.

Do not react in a strong way to their criticism or bad words, if you do you will look like the bad guy. It’s best to count to ten before you respond to any disrespectful remarks. They want you to react, so do not give them the advantage of doing that.

2. Set Boundaries.

When you set boundaries you let them know you are not tolerating their behavior and you won’t allow them to disturb your peace. You can set boundaries by limiting communication, walking away if they try to start an argument and simply calling out their behavior. I did this with my old boss, and she bothered me less after I put her in her place.

3. Find the triggers.

Find what triggers a toxic person and avoid putting oil on the fire, unfortunately, it’s like walking on eggshells but that’s how it is with a toxic person.

4. Cut ties.

This happens in extreme cases when there is no change to your circumstances, it’s hard to do this with coworkers. I would suggest having minimal communication with your coworkers unless you absolutely have to speak regarding work-related matters i.e. completing an important project.

5. Speak up.

As much as we want to avoid confrontation, it is important to stand up for ourselves when people are being disrespectful to you. Put them in their place and let them know it is not ok to be treated this way.

6. Do not engage in fights.

Toxic people like to stir up conflict, do not engage in it and simply walk away. Remeber to pick your battles, do not engage in anything if it will disturb your

7. Have a conversation.

Try to have a conversation and understand the underlying reasons for why they are acting this way. Sometimes they might be going through a tough time and they are lashing out. This doesn’t excuse the toxic behavior, but it allows to see what’s going on and what steps are necessary to take to fix the situation.

These are a few of the tips I have for you that have helped me when I am dealing with toxic people. It’s very easy to let their words affect you, but in the end, you have to remember that they are the problem. The moment I realized my old boss was the problem I began to have more peace.

I hope this was helpful, my next Self Care January post will be about embracing change.

See you soon!

 

 

 

Music Monday: Bruno Mars ft. Cardi B – Finesse.

Hello everyone,

Welcome back to Music Monday, your daily dose of weekly music!

Today I will be introducing a song that’s trending worldwide and that’s none other than “Finesse” by Bruno Mars featuring Cardi B.

This song brings me back to 90s funk music, it is so upbeat and catchy. It reminds me of Fresh Prince of Bel Air, the fashion, and dancing in the music video is on point. Cardi B’s rap adds something special to the song and Bruno’s vocals are heaven to my ears. It’s safe to say that I haven’t been so obsessed with a song since Gangnam Style days.

Let me know if you will have this song on replay!

Enjoy and see you soon!

 

Self Care January! What I Learned About Nutrition & Fitness.

“Health is not about the weight you lose, but about the life, you gain” – Dr. Josh Axe

These words couldn’t be truer and I have realized a lot about my mindset when it comes to nutrition and fitness. For my older followers, you may recall me publishing a post about my fitness journey two years ago and how happy I was with my progress. There was definitely progress, I really challenged myself to complete difficult workout sessions. I felt empowered that I can do something so challenging, my stamina improved, and I had those happy endorphins. However, things started to change around 2015.

In 2013 I began working out and eventually I made it part of my daily routine because it made me happy. I would look forward coming home from work, turning on my favorite Youtube fitness channel and do a 45-minute workout. I became fitter, but my belly wasn’t what I wanted it to look like and I became disappointed. I thought to myself, “All of that hard work for nothing, why am I not getting the results I want?” So my workout energy decreased, I became unmotivated because I didn’t see the results I wanted. I worked out for the vanity reasons, not for my health.

So during that time, I worked out here and there, and eventually, I stopped in 2016. It was also around that time that I started to get sick, my immune system became weak and I got sick every month. I took so many antibiotics during that time and I knew taking so much medication was not good for me. After I healed from my last flu in Spring of 2016, I didn’t get sick until Fall of that year. One more thing that changed about me was the way I ate, I went back to eating junk food and not caring about what I put in my body. I was addicted to instant ramen cups, pizza, and deep-fried foods. After getting sick in December 2016, and taking more antibiotics I thought, “ok that’s it, no more getting sick!”

Little did I know 2017 was planning to throw so many challenges in my way. It was in February 2017, when I started to feel sick, my stomach didn’t feel right. I’ll keep this short because it does have a happy ending. Basically, from the month of March to July, I went to the doctor’s office frequently to figure out what’s going on. At first, I was told it’s acid reflux but there was something more. So in July, I got a procedure done to find out what’s wrong. I got the results back in August and I was diagnosed with a chronic stomach condition. I had to take antibiotics and do a follow-up test in November to ensure I was healed. I did heal, those were the happiest news I received. However, it was like a rude awakening to change my eating habits and go back to doing exercise.

My doctor told me I need a lifestyle change, I need to eat clean and reduce my stress levels. So this is what I learned about nutrition and fitness and what to do to have a healthier lifestyle.

DISCLAIMER: I AM NOT A NUTRITIONIST OR A FITNESS SPECIALIST, I SIMPLY SHARE WHAT HAS WORKED FOR ME AND WHAT I LEARNED.

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  1. Drink water as soon as you wake up to increase your metabolism, hydrate you, help your body flush out toxins, and give your brain fuel. My doctor told me to drink water half an hour before a meal, and the half an hour later after a meal. The reason for this is because it allows the stomach fluid to break down the food in your belly. If you drink water while eating, it dilutes the stomach acid and the food will not get digested easily. I was surprised when he told me this because typically I drink water with my meals. However, I do what my doctor tells so I can feel better.
  2. Eat three hours before your bedtime to allow your food to digest well. Going to bed right after eating is not a good idea because the food won’t be fully digested. I speak from experience when I talk about this because it was absolutely draining to deal with my stomach problems.
  3. Do not eat fast, take your time eating and chewing your food. If you rush your meals, your digestion suffers. According to Precious Nutrition.com, if we eat fast we force our GI tract to deal with stuff before it’s fully prepared. Therefore, if we eat fast the food does not digest well.
  4. Avoid spicy foods, deep fried foods, and junk food. I avoid anything with too much oil and salt, when I say I eat clean, I eat super clean. The thing is, my stomach is still very sensitive and I have to be careful not to consume something that will irritate my stomach.
  5. I love beer but I can’t have it until my stomach settles down and I was told to avoid alcohol completely. To be honest, I’m not much of drinker, so this isn’t a challenge.
  6. I have reduced my sugar intake and I do not eat sweets as much as I used to. First of all, excessive intake of sugar can cause diabetes but now I don’t need sugar as much as I used to before.
  7. Incorporate fiber into your diet. It helps slow down the rate of sugar absorbed into the bloodstream and helps with your glucose level from rising too fast. I don’t eat fiber excessively, everything I eat is in moderation.
  8. Get up to 7-8 hours of sleep and try to go to bed before midnight so you can fully rest and not wake up feeling tired. I don’t like waking up super early but 8:00am or 9:00am seems like a reasonable time. I am a night owl, but when I go to bed before midnight and wake up a bit earlier I feel better.
  9. Do yoga to stretch out your muscles and feel more relaxed.
  10. Find an exercise that makes you feel good and happy, right now I am enrolled in dance classes and I love it. Eventually, I want to go back to doing Pilates but for now, I am starting out slow. I am getting back into the habit of liking exercise again.
  11. We know that we have to eat three meal per day, but now I eat a few small meals during the day to digest my food better. When I eat a large meal I don’t feel well and I have bad heartburn and digestion problems. So instead a have a small breakfast, then another meal, then lunch, then another small meal, a snack and then dinner. Yes, I am very disciplined about my stomach health because what I went through was very unpleasant.

These are some of the things I learned about fitness and health, health is so precious so make sure you take care of yourself.

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How to survive winter in Toronto!

Some people love winter, while others don’t. Especially Canadian winter! Canadian winters are known for their harsh temperatures, especially in the northern part of Canada. I am not a Canadian born, but I do come from a country with four seasons and our winters were never this extreme.

Over the years I noticed I hibernate a lot from January to April, and here the winter season lasts longer. It can get boring to stay at home all the time, so I decided to put my thinking cap on and come up with a list of ways to survive winter in Toronto. This list can be also helpful for anyone suffering from Season Affective Disorder.

Let’s take a look.

1. Catch a movie at TIFF Bell Lightbox.

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TIFF Bell Lightbox has a unique selection of films to see, and if you are a TIFF volunteer then you have vouchers to redeem. The cinemas at TIFF Bell Lightbox are cozy, they also have the concession stand and the TIFF Lounge. For example, you got there early and there are some minutes to spare before you go in the cinema. Go to the TIFF Lounge and enjoy a beverage, sit by the window and enjoy the view of King Street. By the way, you don’t have to order anything, you can just sit there and enjoy your time. In the building, there is also Luma restaurant, the Canteen, and a gift shop. You can also go to a regular movie theatre 🙂

2. Indoor Mimico Skating Rink.

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u skate you can warm up quickly, but if you prefer to do this indoors head down to the Mimico Arena. Oh, and did I mention that it is free? It’s better to go out on a Friday night and enjoy some skating.

3. Find cute coffee shops.

The good thing about Toronto is the dynamic lifestyle. You will find so many aesthetically pleasing coffee shops. You can grab some coffee, or tea and a yummy dessert. Enjoy your time there with a good book or bring your laptop to do some work or watch some Netflix. Some coffee shops to visit are:

Himalayan Coffee House

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This coffee house creates the cutest coffee art!

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Dineen Coffee Co.

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Manic Coffee

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Boxcar Social

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Balzac’s

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Sense Appeal Cofee Roasters

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Neo Coffee Bar

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Of course, there are more coffee shops to explore, but these are a few options.

4. Going to the Toronto Reference Library.

I am a bookworm, and I love discovering new books to read. I still love going to the library, when I immigrated to Canada I used to go all the time because I didn’t have a computer. Now I continue to go but I like to explore the history and geography section. Lately, I’ve been interested in learning more about the world. So while you are there, grab a good book and sit there for hours reading. You’ll be nice and toasty, don’t forget to bring a snack with you too. In fact, any Toronto Public Library will be a good choice. another unique library to visit is the Thomas Fisher Rare Book Library which is a library in the University of Toronto.

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Thomas Fisher Rare Book Library

5. Trampoline Park.

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If you want to have some real fun, I recommend going to the trampoline park. Go with your friends and feel like a kid again. This is also a great way to get rid of the winter blues and have some fun. The most popular trampoline parks to visit are Skyzone and Air Riderz.

5. Comedy clubs

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If you’re in the mood for some fun entertainment, check out the comedy clubs in the city. There are so many comedy clubs to choose from and if you want a cheaper deal, Groupon is your best resource. Laughing until your stomach hurts is the best way to cure your winter blues. Some comedy clubs to visit are Second City, Yuk Yuk’s, Absolute Comedy, Comedy Club, Bad Dog Comedy Theater, Social Capital Theater, The Corner, Rivoli and 120 Diner.

6. Going bowling.

Another fun activity to do in the winter is to go bowling, spend time with family and friends and have some fun. There are some bowling places in the city and here is a list:

Bathurst Bowlerama, Rexdale Bowlerama, The Ballroom, Playtime Bowl, Planet Bowl, Parkway Bowl, North Park Bowl, Newtonbrook Bowlerama, Kennedy Bowl, Danforth Bowl, C4Centre Bowling and All-Star Interactive.

Some of you may say I missed adding West Bowlerama to the list, but I recently found out that location will close permanently. That’s okay because there is much more to choose from.

8. Going out to see a music show.

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We are so lucky in Toronto to have so many entertaining music venues. Here are a few suggestions:

Roy Thompson Hall, The Royal Conservatory, The Rex (jazz and blues club), The Canadian Music Centre (they offer very affordable tickets), Lee’s Palace (for rock music lovers), The Garrison (for indie music lovers), and Clinton’s Tavern (it has indie music, karaoke and 60s/90s dance nights.

These are a few venues but there are many, many more.

9. Going to see some art and history.

 

If you are interested in arts and culture, Toronto has got you covered. The downtown core is buzzing with venues for culture lovers. Here are a few suggestions:

AGO (Art Gallery of Ontario), The Rom (The Royal Ontario Museum), Aga Khan Museum, The Music Gallery, Bata Shoe Museum, Gardner Museum, and so much more!

I’ve always loved going to museums and galleries!

10. Going to karaoke.

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I love singing so naturally I love going to karaoke venues. It is a great way to spend some time with friends and bring some snacks. Here are a few suggestions:

XO Karaoke, Bar + Karaoke (one of my favorites), Freezone Karaoke, and many more.
Happy singing!🎤

11. Netflix, Dance, and Relaxing.

 

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Now, this is not a location in Toronto, but if you really don’t want to go out, staying home and creating a fun atmosphere can cure your winter blues too. Find your favorite show, or pick a new one and snuggle in your bed with some tea and a delicious snack. Find a fun Youtube video and dance your heart out, you’ll get those happy endorphins. Open your blinds or curtains, let in some light, and just relax. I know how to have fun at home and enjoy my time alone, so if you guys want a post dedicated to that, please comment below.

Honourable mentions:

Ripley’s Aquarium, Gladstone Hotel, The Drake, and The Ballroom.

Thank you so much for reading, I hope you enjoyed this post! My next post will be part of my Self Care January segment and it will be published this week.

See you soon!

My Thoughts On Logan Paul!

As someone who works with children and has spent four years of my life in university studying Child and Youth Care Counselling with minor in psychology, I had to speak up about a certain topic.

On December 31, 2017, famous Youtuber Logan Paul who has millions of people following him, posted a video of himself going into the Suicide Forest in Japan. As he was walking around, he and his friends stumbled upon a dead body hanging from a tree. I think it is obvious you might see a dead body if you go in the forest, it’s called suicide forest for a reason. In addition, I believe trespassing is prohibited and you can’t go in the forest. To make things worse, he included up close shots of the body in his vlog and he was laughing with his friends. I have four words for Logan Paul!

You should be ashamed! 

First of all, he has a huge following and most of his audience is children. Posting something like this without thinking how you might traumatize young minds is a disgrace. So many children could have seen a dead body for the first time in their lives because of his reckless behavior. He deleted the video, but I personally haven’t watched it. I can’t bring myself to watch something like this, it is disturbing content even for someone who is an adult. This news made me think of my students, what if they saw the video. What if they came to me and said they feel upset and can’t forget what they saw. Some of my students come to me and tell they watch YouTube videos they are not supposed to watch behind their parents back. Psychological development in young children is important and we have to be careful what we expose our children to. His actions are irresponsible and he didn’t think about anyone else but himself. Since then he has posted an apology video and in the video, he mentioned he was trying to raise awareness about suicide prevention.

I don’t understand. How can you raise awareness about suicide prevention when you show a dead body, there is no logic in that statement. This is a plain excuse for disrespecting the individual you committed suicide and Japan. Logan Paul states he didn’t do it to gain more views, but I do not believe this statement. If you didn’t care you wouldn’t post a video showing graphic and sensitive content. This was done for shock value, to show something that other YouTubers haven’t done. This is an obsession with views, likes, and followers and sadly this is what our society is becoming. Everything needs to be filmed to try and impress strangers online. It’s sad and it’s not okay. At all.

I am all about giving people second chances and there have been social media influencers who spread a positive message with their videos, who stated he deserves a second chance. I personally cannot feel this way right now, I am so disgusted with what he did that I don’t think he deserves a second chance. Maybe somehow he will redeem himself in the future but for now, he needs a rude awakening to smarten up and be a decent human being. I also think YouTube is to blame too, this video should’ve been flagged and taken down immediately. Shame on you, YouTube!

If you have a huge following as a social influencer your duty is to spread positive, and appropriate content to your viewers. Even if you do not have a huge following you still need to think about what you post online. For example, I don’t have the biggest following on my blog or photography page, but I still ensure I post motivational and pleasant content. Don’t be a jerk and post controversial content with the purpose of gaining a following. Let your art and talent speak for itself and earn followers with hard work.

I hope everyone who is a big or small social media influencer, thinks about what they post and how it affects others.

Thank you for reading!

I’ll see you all tomorrow with a wintery post 🙂